Getting nervous when you have a first date is nothing new. It happens to both men and women. For guys, it can sometimes happen a little more often, due to the simple fact that the ball is in your court and if you don't get things just right on that first date... then there is little chance that you are going to end up with a second date with a woman. You might get so worked up thinking about whether or not you are going to get things right, that you end up feeling like you might puke!
What if you puke on your first date?
Chances are, it won't be that bad. I mean, you may get nervous, you may feel some anxiety, but overall... most guys do not puke on a first date. They may feel like it, but it almost never happens. I guess the only thing that you can do when you feel like that is to head for the nearest bathroom as soon as possible, lol.
But, let's talk about getting nervous about having a first date with a woman. What are some things that can help you get over that feeling so that you don't even have to worry about the possibility of puking?
Most of the time, the nerves come from the anticipation of trying to be perfect and do everything just right. If you get yourself thinking about all of the things that can go wrong, it's almost inevitable that you are going to be feeling a lot of anxiety, a lot of pressure and things will not go well for you.
What is a first date anyway?
It's just a chance to get to know someone a little better. To get a chance to have that connection that leads to something more. As a guy who has had a lot of first dates, I can tell you, it's really nothing to get worked up about or worry about. She's going to feel nervous herself, and you don't have to be perfect to give her a good impression and make her want to see you again.
Let's say that you really like the woman you are going to be going out on a first date with, and you really want things to go well. You don't want to blow it, and you want to be able to get the best chance possible to make her YOUR girlfriend.
Of course, this is more than possible, so what should you do?
More than anything else, you want to be as comfortable as you possibly can. If you are giving off nervous vibes, then guess what you are going to end up making your date feel? Nervous. So, as the guy, you need to be in control of this, and she will relax a little more, just because you are making it easy for her to feel that way.
You also don't want to get too hung up on trying to ask all of the 'right' questions or say all of the 'right' things. That's not the way that a conversation naturally flows, and the more natural you can make your first date, the better off it will be.
So, if you feel like you are going to puke, relax yourself and remind yourself that it's just a conversation, and it does not have to be so pressure packed at all.
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