When it comes to attraction, a man can never change how a woman feels about you. It's a reality you must accept. No amount of feeding her with science and logic on why she should like you will change her feelings. It's the reality that the hardest things to change are feelings. You cannot force someone to like you. Feelings are those things in life that develop with time and experience and sometimes, they really won't develop for you at all.
Dating will help you get to know each other and it takes a man a lot of guts to ask a woman out but you also need to remember that a first date will tell you a lot. The first thing to look for on a first date is if she's interested enough in you to go on a second date. You can probably ask her to have a late evening coffee with you, she might oblige but it doesn't mean she wants to spend more time with you. Why can't you force a woman to like you? If she doesn't feel it, you won't receive it. Forcing magic to happen on a feeling less date is impossible. Sparks might be flying your way but it just might be the one way road.
Men are persistent beings when they want something and in line to getting what they want is their persistence to please and beg a girl to like them. Big mistake right there. Women like being pursued, yes, but persuasion can take its toll. Sometimes, men can perceive a 'maybe' from a girl they like as a yes when sometimes it's just a subtle and nice way of saying 'no.' When all the signs are telling you she won't go out on a date with you, she really won't.
If you can't read into the context of what she's trying to tell you, maybe you can read what she's trying to tell you in a non-verbal context. If she's avoiding your calls, she always has an excuse why she's not available tomorrow, next Friday, the end of the month, two months from now, the first week of next year, take a hint - she's not into you. It's time to move on and ask someone else.
Dating shouldn't stress you out. Finding a date shouldn't be as difficult if you know where to look and what to do. Before you start investing too much emotion for a person, why don't you learn sizing up women first. It's easier to date someone if when you ask them on the first try, they gladly say yes. No begging and pleasing involved.
I don't know if it's funny or it's miserable that some men go to the extent of 'buying' their way into a woman's heart. I think it's both. You're lucky if the girl returns all those gifts so you can take them back for a refund or give them to a friend or relative but if a girl just keeps on receiving while they keep you hanging, boy, snap out of it. She's gladly using you and you're just being happy she's accepting your bribe thinking you're inching your way closer to a soft spot in her heart. If she likes you, a couple minutes of silence while you enjoy a late afternoon coffee together is enough for her and you'll automatically feel that.
Women are transparent, some men are just clueless. Don't be one of them. When the feeling is right, a second date won't require you to swipe your card for a $400 purse nor require you to call her 40 times in one day just to get her free schedule. Maybe you're looking at the wrong places. Dating should be fun and you don't need to resort to begging just to make her say yes.
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