Dating Tips for Guys - How to Handle Dating More Than One Woman

When the topic of dating more than one woman comes up, things tend to get a bit polarized. Some people think that it is wrong to date more than one woman at a time and there's nothing that you can do to change their mind. And then there are some that are open to the idea, simply because they are not really in frame of mind where they want to just be focused on one woman. I'm going to assume that you are in the second group, because well, you probably would not be reading this article if you weren't.

Personally, I see nothing wrong with dating more than one woman at a time, as long as you are not telling them that you are being exclusive to them and then running around behind their back. Dating has gotten a lot more modern anyways, and even a lot of women don't want to be exclusive or rush things into commitment too soon.

Here are some dating tips for guys on how to handle dating more than one woman:

1. I have to say it again... you need to make sure that the women you are dating are aware that it is not an exclusive relationship.

Try to get around this, and you are pretty much guaranteed to end up in a sticky situation somewhere down the road. Some guys make the assumption that they have to hide the fact that they are seeing more than one woman, because they don't think any woman will be cool with it. Times have changed and she's more than likely going to be cool with it as long as you are not playing games with her.

2. You have to make sure that you can handle being open about things and allowing her the same luxury.

It's not going to work out in most situations if you expect that she needs to be exclusive to you, and that you can go and do your own thing. So, you need to be able to handle the possibility that whatever woman you are not with could very well be out on a date with another guy. If you can't handle this, then dating more than one woman probably is not for you.

3. You need to be responsible.

Hey, if you are going to play the field, then you cannot allow yourself to slack on the safety. Always make sure that you are protected when you are dating more than one woman. Most guys don't think about safe sex until it is too late, but if you are going to date more than one woman at a time, this should definitely be on your mind at all times.

If you are going to start dating more than one woman at a time, then you need to get advanced dating tips for men and become the kind of guy that women WANT to date...

Picking Up Women Made Easy - Dating Tips

Here's a scenario any guy will be able to relate to "Wow, she is simply stunning." Perhaps this has happened to you at a social function, so the chances are that you're bound to cross paths several times with this spectacular woman throughout the night, and like most men, you do little or nothing about it!

I'm pretty sure I'd be safe to assume that you failed to gather the courage that night to strike up a conversation, and to this day you're probably wondering, if only I just...? Unfortunately, this simply does not cut it in the real dating world, or any world including online dating sites for that matter.

There's a preconceived notion in dating land that men need to come up with super smooth pick up lines in order to get the girl. Well, the truth of the matter is that the vast majority of long-term and meaningful relationships start out with a simple gesture that sounds sincere. Yep, most connections start out with a simple hi or hello.

Your key ally when it comes to approaching women is your own instinct. Finding the nerve to start up a conversation with an attractive woman takes a little practice, so make sure you steel yourself for a few negative reactions along the way. Just because she doesn't have that twinkle, or spark in her eyes once you say hello, this should not reflect anything about your own attractiveness.

There are a mile of reasons she may not show interest: She's got a boyfriend, she's on a girls night out to be exclusively with her friends, she's in a bad mood, she's gay. So if you get a few knock backs, there's probably a very good reason. However, the law of averages will see lady luck offering good fortune real soon, so long as you persist.

Here's a few tips to start making things real, fantasies get you nowhere!

The Right Frame of Mind.

Feeling good is contagious. If you're feeling great, the people near you will feel your mood. Being in a positive mind-set makes you far more approachable, yes, women approach men too you know! Send out the right signals and watch the world around you change before your very eyes.

Smile.

See, we told you how easy it is to start meeting more women, so start smiling. Anyone can do it, it's the universal signal for happiness and friendship and all this counts in the dating game. And if you prefer to take your love hunt online, make sure your singles chat profile page has a wicked photo of you with a big smile, it'll increase your hits big time! You can practice smiling, how? Try placing a pencil between your front teeth for two minutes several times a day (I kid you not) which strengthens your zygomaticus muscle. Soon, you'll be able to pull off a fantastic smile at will as soon as you lock eyes with a babe.

Reframe The Scenario.

Seriously, most guys use the excuse of "I can't be bothered" or "she doesn't look like the type to be hit on" - nonsense! Look, the guys who have this silly outlook will remain in a rut for an indefinite period of time. And the longer you're there, the harder it is to break out of. If you see a girl you like at a social event, she's there to interact with people, got it - so give it to her, make it your duty to offer her your company. Don't deprive the girl of what you're offering by standing in the corner staring at your drink.

Have Something to Say.

Have at least one funny pre-planned conversation ready. "Hey, what was your take on this week's contentious New Yorker cover?" comes across as a little more stimulating than "So, where bouts are you from"? (boring) By putting in a little effort into your initial approach will at the very least give you something interesting to chat about - at least you broke the ice in style!

If you can work on perfecting just those tips, expect to start seeing a huge difference with the way in which you interact and approach women. Seriously!

Flirting With Women - The Art of Teasing

The Art of Teasing - What Makes You Remarkable

First let me tell you about me. I had a great time with awesome women around me and obviously, I am still enjoying my life. Actually I was succeeded to figure out what makes me different from others and how can I utilize it. You may think why I am discussing about myself. The point is that, everybody has something special, something awesome within him.

And definitely, this unique quality generates equal opportunities for you to enjoy your life with attractive women. No one can take this of your unique quality from you. Just try to explore it.

Don't be over logical but be humorous

I know it that you would be thinking that this guy may have something special within him but you don't. Well, don't be puzzled. I have also faced such situation once. I have tried each logical way to figure out how to get closer to women but there is nothing logical with love, sex, or passion or even with seduction.

While wandering around beautiful women you might have a mental state "Oh what should I do next?" but believe me, it doesn't help. And finally what is your conclusion about you? You start feeling inferiority complex. I am not so cool like him, or I am not so attractive and so on.

But do you know what I had explored? I stopped being logical and avoided the logical reasoning in my mind. And I started being humorous all the time. You know, humour is not physical interpretative. It's just the state of your mind and obviously you can control it.

Exploring your especial qualities

As I told earlier, everyone has at least one especial quality that makes him looking different and awesome. And obviously it's God gifted. It's the time to figure it out. You can frequently spot some average looking guys picking up gorgeous woman easily. So what makes them awesome?

Just take not of your own body language and pick up the good points that you have. Did you find something? If you found it then go ahead and be confident. But if didn't find anything then no problem. Physical impression is not so important if you have a "go get her" attitude and humorous state of mind. You may be a good dancer, a good singer, a good poet, a good musician etc. Polish that specialty within you and represent it in a rhythmic manner.

But above of all, believing in yourself and showing that attitude before women will help you a lot. In fact, a "go get her" attitude helps you to gain charisma on your personality.

This whole story is about the art of teasing, which makes your personality overwhelming and adds to your fun ambience. Come up with something out of the box that normally people don't think about you. You may adopt it in your daily routine. But remember, it should be something strange for others. Just add a tint of glam and grace in your profile and other will start to follow you, especially women.

8 Sure-Fire Ways to Get a Girl to Like You

You can get a girl to like you by following some basic 'get a girl' rules. Following are 8 rules to live by when you are trying to get a girl to like you.

1. Don't Chase Her, Pursue Her

When you pursue a girl you are trying to get her to notice you and like you, but when you chase a girl you can cross a line into looking like a stalker and obsessive. Once you cross that line it can be hard to get back on the other side, so avoid chasing her as though she is a mission to accomplish and instead pursue her as something you would like in your life.

2. Be Independent

Girls want a guy who can be independent and self-sufficient. If you act as though you can't make your own decisions or rely solely on other people to guide you through your day then you will become less attractive in a girls eyes, but if you are independent and live your life by your own set of rules then she will be attracted to that.

3. Show Her That You Value Her Opinion

Women like to be heard and valued. When she talks, listen. When she gives you an opinion do not brush it off as stupid or not important to you. Instead let her know that you value her views and what she says matters to you.

4. Do not Complain, Criticize, or Be Pessimistic

Most people we talk to throughout the day will be negative in some way or another. In fact, most conversations are started this way! If you can avoid talking negatively and instead be a positive influence that she see's throughout her day then you will stand out from the rest of the guys who are trying to get her attention.

5. Flirt with Her

Let her know that you are into her so she is not wondering whether or not she will make a fool of herself if she tries to make a move on you. If you avoid flirting with her then she may think that you are not interested in her that way, and instead of risking rejection she may avoid you altogether.

6. Don't Give up on Her Too Quickly

While you don't want to chase her forever, you also don't want to give up after a few conversations with her. You may think she's not interested so you stop pursuing her and move on to someone else, but you may have given up too early and you were on the verge of getting her to like you! Many women play hard to get because they think that's what they are supposed to do, so if you give up just before she is done playing hard to get then you will miss your chance with her.

Also, attraction can be sparked by one certain word, look, or action, and you may not have given her that certain gesture or word yet. Tomorrow she may see something in you that she can't resist, and you will never know if you give up now.

7. Boost Her Self-Esteem

Everyone likes someone who makes them feel good about themselves. If you can make her feel prettier, smarter, or really talented then you will have a good chance of making her like you. So make sure you give her some compliments while you talk to her, and always give her credit where credit is due!

8. Be Comfortable to Be Around

If she finds it easy to talk to you and be around you then you have a much better chance of getting her to like you then if you are hard to talk to you or if she is nervous around you. You can make her feel comfortable by letting her be herself when she's around you 

Signs of Attraction That You Really Can't Miss!

There are subtle and obvious ways women use to signal attraction. They usually send a pretty clear signal that she has some attraction to you. Sometimes it is body position or eye contact. Women who are attracted to you are more likely to touch you if they can, if they know its okay to. Women who smile uncontrollably when you interact with them are attracted to you.

People can feel 'helpless' when they experience attraction whether they are male or female. It's something we want to control but often do not and cannot. People can be attracted to a wise choice or to a terrible mistake. That can be worrisome, perhaps even more so for women or for parents. Still because of this, people spend lots of energy learning to make themselves more attractive, and to express their attractions and their bad reactions - to get rid of attracted pests.

Here is another clear sign of attraction. When you know a woman in group situations: if you and the others have all noticed that she doesn't flirt with other men but does flirt with you then its obvious. If she flirts with a lot of men, she is probably attracted to you to, but it may be harder to tell whether or not to take it seriously. Some people are just flirts. Others only flirt if they are really seeking a new partner. There are women who only flirt with a man they find very special.

Conversation: this can be challenging because there are women who will talk to you for a variety of reasons. Also, women give a lot of mixed signals because women are taught to "say No" more than men are. So, most of the time that a woman is attracted to a man, she is thinking that she is not going to pursue or date or encourage this man. At the same time, whether single or married, when she really is attracted to him it might be difficult or impossible to hide that from him.

There are many times when a woman will converse with you because she is attracted to you. She will linger around you, given the chance, when she has no real excuse for doing so: if she does this, it is most likely that she is attracted to you.

Finding a Date - Why You Can't Force Her to Like Yo

When it comes to attraction, a man can never change how a woman feels about you. It's a reality you must accept. No amount of feeding her with science and logic on why she should like you will change her feelings. It's the reality that the hardest things to change are feelings. You cannot force someone to like you. Feelings are those things in life that develop with time and experience and sometimes, they really won't develop for you at all.

Dating will help you get to know each other and it takes a man a lot of guts to ask a woman out but you also need to remember that a first date will tell you a lot. The first thing to look for on a first date is if she's interested enough in you to go on a second date. You can probably ask her to have a late evening coffee with you, she might oblige but it doesn't mean she wants to spend more time with you. Why can't you force a woman to like you? If she doesn't feel it, you won't receive it. Forcing magic to happen on a feeling less date is impossible. Sparks might be flying your way but it just might be the one way road.

Men are persistent beings when they want something and in line to getting what they want is their persistence to please and beg a girl to like them. Big mistake right there. Women like being pursued, yes, but persuasion can take its toll. Sometimes, men can perceive a 'maybe' from a girl they like as a yes when sometimes it's just a subtle and nice way of saying 'no.' When all the signs are telling you she won't go out on a date with you, she really won't.

If you can't read into the context of what she's trying to tell you, maybe you can read what she's trying to tell you in a non-verbal context. If she's avoiding your calls, she always has an excuse why she's not available tomorrow, next Friday, the end of the month, two months from now, the first week of next year, take a hint - she's not into you. It's time to move on and ask someone else.

Dating shouldn't stress you out. Finding a date shouldn't be as difficult if you know where to look and what to do. Before you start investing too much emotion for a person, why don't you learn sizing up women first. It's easier to date someone if when you ask them on the first try, they gladly say yes. No begging and pleasing involved.

I don't know if it's funny or it's miserable that some men go to the extent of 'buying' their way into a woman's heart. I think it's both. You're lucky if the girl returns all those gifts so you can take them back for a refund or give them to a friend or relative but if a girl just keeps on receiving while they keep you hanging, boy, snap out of it. She's gladly using you and you're just being happy she's accepting your bribe thinking you're inching your way closer to a soft spot in her heart. If she likes you, a couple minutes of silence while you enjoy a late afternoon coffee together is enough for her and you'll automatically feel that.

Women are transparent, some men are just clueless. Don't be one of them. When the feeling is right, a second date won't require you to swipe your card for a $400 purse nor require you to call her 40 times in one day just to get her free schedule. Maybe you're looking at the wrong places. Dating should be fun and you don't need to resort to begging just to make her say yes.

What If I Puke During Our First Date?

Getting nervous when you have a first date is nothing new. It happens to both men and women. For guys, it can sometimes happen a little more often, due to the simple fact that the ball is in your court and if you don't get things just right on that first date... then there is little chance that you are going to end up with a second date with a woman. You might get so worked up thinking about whether or not you are going to get things right, that you end up feeling like you might puke!

What if you puke on your first date?

Chances are, it won't be that bad. I mean, you may get nervous, you may feel some anxiety, but overall... most guys do not puke on a first date. They may feel like it, but it almost never happens. I guess the only thing that you can do when you feel like that is to head for the nearest bathroom as soon as possible, lol.

But, let's talk about getting nervous about having a first date with a woman. What are some things that can help you get over that feeling so that you don't even have to worry about the possibility of puking?

Most of the time, the nerves come from the anticipation of trying to be perfect and do everything just right. If you get yourself thinking about all of the things that can go wrong, it's almost inevitable that you are going to be feeling a lot of anxiety, a lot of pressure and things will not go well for you.

What is a first date anyway?

It's just a chance to get to know someone a little better. To get a chance to have that connection that leads to something more. As a guy who has had a lot of first dates, I can tell you, it's really nothing to get worked up about or worry about. She's going to feel nervous herself, and you don't have to be perfect to give her a good impression and make her want to see you again.

Let's say that you really like the woman you are going to be going out on a first date with, and you really want things to go well. You don't want to blow it, and you want to be able to get the best chance possible to make her YOUR girlfriend.

Of course, this is more than possible, so what should you do?

More than anything else, you want to be as comfortable as you possibly can. If you are giving off nervous vibes, then guess what you are going to end up making your date feel? Nervous. So, as the guy, you need to be in control of this, and she will relax a little more, just because you are making it easy for her to feel that way.

You also don't want to get too hung up on trying to ask all of the 'right' questions or say all of the 'right' things. That's not the way that a conversation naturally flows, and the more natural you can make your first date, the better off it will be.

So, if you feel like you are going to puke, relax yourself and remind yourself that it's just a conversation, and it does not have to be so pressure packed at all.

How to Tell If She Likes You by Reading Body Language

In face-to-face communication your words account for as little as 7 percent of the perceived impact of the communication. Your vocal tone is about 38 percent, but your non-verbal signals take the lion's share with around 55 percent. This is why you should always pay extra attention to your partner's body language, because not like our subconscious gestures the words may not be honest.

Almost any relationship, no matter how short or long, begins with an eye-glaze longer than a few seconds. This is when the interest or in some cases - the lack of it gets established. Most girls usually play here the 'oh-I'm-so-shy-so -you-should-make-the-first-move card'. If you do wish to proceed you should keep the eye contact, if you don't then just turn away and move on.

The next thing most of the girls do is giving their looks a final polish. This usually means smoothing the clothes, adjusting the hair and make-up and fixing body posture. Now she adds a well-known hair flip and she definitely has your attention. This is usually when they expect you to approach and start a conversation.

Is she leaning towards you? Keep an eye on her body language that indicates she wants more interaction. Girls like doing things like leaning close to you, whispering something in your ear or speaking softly so you have to come closer to talk to her. If she seems to be interested and enthusiastic about being almost too close to you, you know she's interested.

Now if she starts touching you occasionally she's definitely into you. Women who aren't into a man are very careful of avoiding any type of touching that can be interpreted as flirting. Is she bumping into you a lot? Is she touching your shoulders or back? Is she fixing up your appearance and clothes? If you answered yes to any of these questions then she's interested in you.

Some women show their interest by asking questions. They want to know more about your family, closest friends and previous girlfriends. They usually don't mean anything bad by doing it but yes, it may be uncomfortable for you. The more details you give them the more interested in you they get. That's just in their nature.

Girls are very good at marking their territory to signal to the other girls that a guy is taken. This will involve some very fleeting form of touch, possibly on the arm or shoulder. They usually sit near you, try to talk to you as much as possible and laugh at your jokes (both good and bad ones). It's all because they don't want to have competitors around you.

So long story told short, the more eye contact and less personal space you get the better. Always pay attention to the little differences you notice in her behaviour. Occasional touching is a solid proof she expects something more from you two than just being friends. And let's not forget the sudden interest in your past. They usually really do want to get yo know you better. So all you have to do is pay attention to her body language and you will know if she is or isn't interested in you.

Tips to Approaching Women When You Are Scared of Rejection

You are not alone if you get scared of the idea of approaching women because you fear rejection. The fear of rejection is one of the most common social fears that people of all walks of life have. Even a lot of the people that you would think do not have this kind of fear, do. Dealing with it is not always easy. And if it keeps you from actually doing what you want to do, as in, approaching a woman, it can have pretty severe consequences on your life.

After all, what joy can you get out of life if you are held back by the fear of rejection?

Some people will never get over this. They will allow this fear to keep them in virtual chains. They will only socialize with the same people that they feel comfortable with. Some will go as far as staying inside of their house most of the time. Now, it may not really be that bad for you. Still, if it keeps you from walking on over to a woman you find attractive, you have to admit that it does have a negative impact on you and your life.

How do you over come this so that you CAN start approaching women?

Tip 1 - Admit to yourself that this is an issue that you DO want to work on.

Just being able to admit that you have a problem with approaching women is something that you need to be able to do, and most guys will not. They don't want to feel vulnerable or they just don't want to admit it in front of their peers or something. Well, you don't have to openly tell someone else, but you do have to be honest with yourself and admit that you do have a fear of rejection and that it does keep you from advancing on a woman that you would like to be able to talk to and get to know.

Tip 2 - Visualize yourself actually going through the motions of approaching a woman, and imagine yourself being confident and not caring if she rejects you.

The key to using this kind of visualization technique is to make it as REAL as possible. If you do make it as real as you possibly can and you normally get nervous or feel the fear coming over you, then you should be able to feel it when you are just visualizing yourself approaching a woman. If you are not, then you are not making it REAL enough. If you can, visualize everything else that would be there in that situation. Picture the bar, the crowd of people, the noise of the music, etc.

Tip 3 - Take that same visualization, and now drown out all of the other things, so that all you see is the woman you want to approach and feel a sense of calmness coming over you.

Once you are able to get to the point where it feels REAL and you can see everything around you, you want to take away all of the other stuff like the bar, the crowd, the sound of the music. This helps to get you in that zone where you don't feel the nerves so much. And once you feel that calmness come over you and you visualize yourself approaching her, feel what it's like to talk to her now. If it feels more comfortable and like you don't care if she rejects you or not, you're done.

Now, this visualization technique will not make all of the fear instantly go away. You will still feel some it, What it DOES do, is give you a point of reference in your mind where you can see yourself feeling the way that you normally do, changing that feeling, and actually succeeding in making the approach.

Why She Won't Go Out With You on a Date

You can't figure it out. You get all the right signals from her and yet nothing. There's a girl who always smile at you, always seems happy to see you. She even told her friends about you. For whatever reason beyond your comprehension, she simply will not go out with you. How do you understand this phenomenon?

Some things to consider when she gives you mixed signal:

You are her best friend. She will not jeopardize the friendship for a relationship that she feels may not work. Many women will analyze a relationship piece by piece. Women will understand that friendship she has can be special especially with a guy. A unique friendship will make it difficult for her to sacrifice.

Her friend likes you. She may have a best friend. She may not risk her relationship with her best friend. This will certainly be something to think about.

It's not about you. Many women have other priorities over relationships. She may be working her way to the top and feel she may not have time for a relationship. She simply may not have time for you.

Bust a move. She may really like you. She may even be waiting for you to make a move. You need to distinguish clearly that you want to go out with her.

There are other reasons why she won't go out with you. Instead of focusing on her, you can let the chips fall where they may. Forget all about her for a while and start dating other girls. You will suddenly become more interesting to her. Since you are less available to her, she will start missing you.

This is a good time for you to ask her out again. This is the moment of truth. You will find out if she really likes you. It is important to find about now rather than later. If you happened to get rejected, maybe it's time to move on.

Getting a girl to go out with you may not be an exact science however; you do need a lot of research, methodology, and experiences to have a marginal change to be confident about your goal. Men are looking for quick and painless ways to achieve what they want. This will ultimately fail them. Understanding every part of dating relationship leads to understanding it as a whole. When this happens to you, don't just focus on that part along, but think about all parts of your dating relationship.

Piece of cake.

Is relationship a piece of cake? Not really... but I can help you :D

How to Attract Women - Is Texting a Good Way to Attract Women?

There's no doubt about it, texting has becoming an everyday part of most people's lives now. Even my 60 year old mom knows how to send text messages. Because it has become such an integral part of our lives, especially amongst the under 30 crowd, a lot of guys wonder, is texting a good way to attract women. And there are a lot of guys who swear that this is one of the best ways to attract a woman. So, is it?

Hate to say it, but I disagree with the idea that you can use texting to attract a woman. You can easily use it to catch up and touch base with a woman, you can use it to add a little humor to her day with a funny comment, and you can even brighten up her day by sending her a little uplifting text message every now and again.

But does it really ATTRACT women?

Well, if it attracted women, then that would kind of imply that all you needed to do was get a girl's cell phone number and start sending her messages. Say that out loud with me now, getting her number and just sending away text messages. Do you really think that this is a good way to gain rapport, build up sexual tension, or attraction?

If it were, then there's no reason why you couldn't just blast away messages on any social website and attract women. I mean, it would be the same thing pretty much. And you have to have her phone number to send her a text, so why not just hit the send button and call her up and get REAL interaction with her?

Look, texting is a great little tool to stay in communication with someone, but you have to remember what it really is. Words on a tiny little screen. And half the time, it's incomplete words. Words on a screen can be interpreted ANY way the person receiving them wants to. So, if it is going to have any effect on attracting her, she's already got to be feeling SOME attraction for you.

Obviously, there is an exception to this rule. A really lonely woman might just be happy to get a text from a guy, much like she would probably be happy to get a Tweet or a Poke, but if you want to go for quality women... the text is mostly good to keep in touch and for quick little things like... Be there at 8.

Consider this: If a woman receives a text message from a guy she barely knows and it says something like... I miss u, what's her reaction going to be? A little weirded out, probably.

Now, say she gets the SAME message from a guy she's been seeing for the last few weeks and she is really attracted to? Same words, completely different context and reaction from her.

So, is texting a good way to attract women?

Not really. It is a good way to keep in touch and send a random one liner here and there to make her laugh, keep her thinking about you, or build UP any attraction that she is ALREADY feeling for you.

Dating Tips for Shy Guys - How to Get Over Shyness With Girls

Here's a common scenario: You see a girl that you're very attracted to and you want to say something to her but you can't find the right words. It seems that everything that comes out of your mouth is gibberish and that one brief encounter turns into a nightmare. Some of you might even become depressed and worried that you'll never find a girlfriend.

Shyness with girls is a common problem that affects millions of men. The end result is usually the same. These guys eventually end up with the wrong kind of girl or they never get dates. The strange part is that most of these men are confident around other men but when they get around girls, they become totally different beings. This article will show you how to boost your confidence around girls and guide you to a solution that can help get rid of your shyness forever.

Shyness with girls is usually the result of a situation that happened in our childhood. This situation stays in our subconscious mind and affects us when we're older. Some people will go to a therapist or psychologist to try and deal with past issues hoping that it'll bring about a positive change. Others have better luck through self-help programs that's specifically target to men who are shy around girls.

Here are a few exercises you can perform that will boost your confidence:

Stand in front of a mirror and visualize yourself talking to a girl. Notice how you're standing. Are you standing up straight with your shoulders back and chest out. You can project instant confidence through this one action alone.

Another visualization exercise is to lay down in a comfortable position and imagine yourself in an uncomfortable situation with a girl. Think about what you're saying and how you're saying it. Really imagine yourself having a wonderful conversation with a girl. Repeat this positive visualization exercise every chance you get. Just don't do it while you're driving or operating heavy machinery.

If you really want to know how to get over shyness with girls, you'll have to put yourself in the line of fire and face your fears. In other words make it a point to talk to as many girls as you can no matter how uncomfortable you feel. It's just like someone throwing you in the deep end of the pool even though you can't swim. You're either going to learn how to swim at that moment or you're going to drown. Yes, I know this seems harsh but it's reality. You can't expect to go through life being afraid of women. You have to get motivated, kick yourself in the butt, and remain persistent.

In order to effectively learn how to get over shyness with girls, I highly advice you to get started on a step-by-step confidence boosting program. Just be sure to choose the right one because you'll be wasting your time if you choose junk that doesn't work.

Getting Creative and Proactive About Meeting "The One"

People are always asking me "where can I meet a great guy or girl?" and lamenting how hard it can be to meet new, quality people. My answer: anywhere and everywhere is a great place to meet someone if you (1) put yourself in the right mindset, (2) make sure you are looking and feeling your best when you walk out the door, and (3) put out warm, welcoming energy.Don't believe me? A close friend of mine just moved in with her boyfriend who she met on a warm summer afternoon strolling down the sidewalk wearing a cute dress and a smile.

Unfortunately, when people think about making a concerted effort to meet someone they immediately target the most obvious places to go - trendy bars, the gym, etc. But chances are those venues are not yielding anything of consequence. Why? Because even though quality people do go to bars, people are typically lacking a quality point of reference there (the intellectual or physical stimuli helpful in creating a bond is absent and there is no way to know if you have anything in common with the person standing next to you). Of course, the gym provides the physical aspect that a bar does not, but how many married couples do you know who met at the gym?... still thinking? Meeting someone at the gym sounds great in theory, but with everyone's little iPod singing in their ears, it's nearly impossible to strike up a conversation.

So, why not exercise some CREATIVITY in your efforts to meet "the One"? Being a little more strategic in how you go about it, might in fact yield sizable results. One of the easiest ways to get started? Using the benefits of modern technology to your dating advantage. Now please know, I'm not just referring to online dating - that is one way to fool yourself into thinking you are being proactive about your love life when you're not. No, I am talking about getting online and seeing what groups out there appeal to people just like you with similar interests and then actually getting out there.

Do you feel most alive when you're outdoors? Instead of doing a solitary run in the park, why not join a running or hiking group and see who you meet? Like to play trivia games but none of your friends care who invented the Q-Tip? (For the curious: Leo Gerstenzang in 1923 observing his wife wrapping a piece of cotton on the end of a toothpick). Why not find out which restaurant is hosting a Trivial Pursuit night and see what other trivia buffs you meet?

You can't find any groups that excite you? Then maybe it's time to create a group of your own. Is there an activity that has always interested you but you haven't found the time to pursue it? Getting a group together is your first step in taking that "someday I'd like to...." off your to do list, while also increasing your chances of meeting a like-minded person while you're at it.

Maybe this sounds like obvious advice, but it's about actually doing it. You know who you are going to see at so-and-so's party next weekend, or who you are going to talk to at the charity event you go to every year (because you know almost half the Facebook guest list). There are a lot of other people in the city out there that don't go to the events you go to. Who are these people and where do they go?

Time to get out and be proactive. But even if you don't meet your Prince or Princess Charming right away, don't get discouraged - after all, you haven't stopped going to bars or the gym right? And at a minimum, all of your extra curricular activities make you a more interesting date whenever or wherever you end up bumping into Mr. or Mrs. Right!

How To Pick Up Women - 5 Tips To Meet Beautiful Women

Learning how to pick up women isn't a subject you can learn in school. Although you know you look great and you've visualized yourself sweeping the woman of your dreams off her feet thousands of time in your mind, for some reason, when you see her, you freeze up.

The two of you lock eyes. You smile. She smiles. You smile back. But something won't allow your legs to walk over to meet her.

Is it fear? Is it approach anxiety?

What is it? Whatever it is, you better get over it, and today I'm going to give you some tips to do so. These tips are the basics on how to pick up women, so if you don't know them, you've definitely stumbled upon a goldmine. '

1. Be Yourself

If there's one thing women can do it's spot a fake and phony person the moment they step into a room. So don't shot yourself in the foot by trying to be someone you're not. Just be yourself. You might have to adjust your personality to whatever situation you're currently in, but never try to be something you're not. Trust me, they'll notice it and it will completely minimize your chances of successfully picking women up.

2. Get Your Mind Right

Your thoughts, create your feelings, which lead to your actions. So stop thinking about how you can't pick up women, and start thinking about why you will pick up women. Keep this in mind the next time you head out to pick up women: no woman wakes up wishing she didn't MEET a man that day who swept her off her feet. Realize that women want to MEET you, they just doesn't know they wants to have sex with you yet.

3. Know What You Want

Before you head out to meet beautiful women, know what type of outcome you want from the interaction. Just sex? Just friends? Or do you want a relationship? It's also a good idea to pick up women you actually want to be around. Just because she's crazy about you doesn't mean you have to give her a chance. Those are the relationships that typically end with an ugly outcome.

4. Don't Be Afraid To Flirt

When you're out picking up women, you don't have the time to play around and wait to flirt with them. You've got then and there to build up their attraction in you. You definitely want her to "get to know you", but one of your main objectives is to let her know you see her as being more than just a friend. And you achieve that with flirting.

5. Don't Waste Words

When you "click" with someone you like, you might want to start talking about your favorite childhood cartoon, your favorite dead pets, or your secret fetish. While she definitely wants to know these things about you, she doesn't want to know them all at once. Sometimes, you have to limit the thoughts you share with women for a couple of reasons: you might be insulting her and/or over complementing her. Basically, don't say more than you have to. There's a time and place for everything, and when you first meet a women that isn't the time for your WHOLE life story.